January – Recovery

 

Each month I’ll be sharing progress on my monthly wellbeing focus, and the top resources that have  helped and inspired me to live a little better than before. 

This month I reflect on reclaiming my attention, addiction, taking myself seriously, living life without sugar, and the journey to recovering the person I was meant.

 

💜 January Inspiration 💜

My focus this month has been on identifying the influence certain addictive products, namely sugar, and secondly social media, have been exerting on my life.  

As someone who has freedom as one of their top values, it’s been a real eye-opener to say the least, to realise the trap I’ve been living in.

The three books I’ve read this month that have sparked a mini revolution and a deep investigation and reflection on my addictive patterns are:

Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World   – Helped me see how f$%£king shot to pieces my attention is thanks to social media, modern hyper-communication, and the source of all knowing, as well as all rubbish, the internet.

This book helped me step back from ‘busy-ness’ and question what I’m doing in life and how I’m actually adding value. Or rather, how I could be adding value, if I could just stay the f%$k off insta-crack for long enough to get something worthwhile done!

Realising how much power social media and other bits of technology were holding over my attention and the addictive loop we can so easily fall into with them, I started to contemplate addiction generally and to look at other areas of my life where I had a sneaking suspicion I was less in control than I liked to think I was.  This led me to shine my freshly-wrangled-from-social-media-focus onto another core health topic: food.

As a health lover and someone in the biz for over ten years now you’d think I’d know what to eat. And yet. I’d say food nirvana is still a tad out of reach and feeding myself in a totally nourishing and non-neurotic way is still  a habit that’s up for grabs for me.

Food Focus

These two books have been incredible resources and I highly recommend them both.

Food: WTF Should I Eat?: The no-nonsense guide to achieving optimal weight and lifelong health : Does what is says on the tin. With so much conflicting advice on what to eat it really can be a case of scratching your head and thinking WTF?? The chapter on sugar is particularly enlightening, which is what led me to read the next book:

 

 

Good Sugar, Bad Sugar This is an Allen Carr book, part of a series called the Easyway that helps people let go of unhelpful behaviours in their life by reframing how you perceive these so-called ‘treats’ and ‘rewards’.. Its most commonly known for its Quit Smoking title.

If sugar, or feeding yourself in a less than optimal way,  is something you grapple with I cannot recommend this book highly enough!! If you could press a button and remove your desire for sugar (the bad kind obviously, we’re not talking fruit here) leaving just a desire for foods that deeply nourish your body, mind and spirit, would you press it? This book is that button. So if you’re not ready to part ways with sugar, then definitely don’t read this, cuz when you’re done reading it you won’t look at it the same again.

 

💜 This Month’s  Experiment: Sugar-Free Jan 💜

A few days before the new year I was feeling sick and tired of not feeling optimal and decided something needed to change.

I narrowed down the most destructive thing in my lifestyle to sugar. That shit was bringing me down and it was time to part ways with it.

I set myself a 30 day challenge. Sugar-free January. There’s nothing like removing something completely to properly gain some perspective on what it adds and detracts from your life.

Compared to the average person I probably eat fairly healthy.  I cook my own meals and love a good kale salad.

But I also have a chocolate-tooth. It’s totally a thing.  

Cacao is still in my diet, nothing wrong with cacao per se, but I knew the sugar had to go. I couldn’t continue to fool myself that there was any place for it in the sort of high-vibe, feel-great-all-the-time-skip-out-my-door-in-the-morning life I’m aspiring to live.

Sugar has no place in a healthy human diet.  It really is that simple. It’s a fact substantiated by plenty of scientific research. There is no healthy or recommended amount, except maybe 0. It’s barely a food!

💜 Sugar: What I Learned 💜

One of the best bits of advice I got from reading Food: WTF Should I Eat is to treat sugar like a recreational drug.

Would you sprinkle some MDMA on your cereal in the morning to help you get the day off to a pumped up start? Probably not.

A quick line of cocaine at 3pm to get you through the afternoon slump?

A bag of ecstasy passed around as treats to the kids after school for being good?

It’s crazy shit I’m talking right there, and yet, we do this with sugar!

Why do we ‘reward’ ourselves and our children with a substance that’s so toxic when consumed in anything but minuscule amounts? A substance that causes obesity, diabetes, heart disease, cancer, dementia, stroke, and depression?

How is that a treat?

We have to really pay attention to the things we expose ourselves to and be honest about whether they are life-affirming or life-detracting. This isn’t always an easy process.

We often want to continue clinging to things that we know don’t serve us because the illusion that they provide some sort of value is so strong.  That’s the hood of addiction.

But there comes a time when enough is enough.

I think I’ve reached this point with sugar.  

The books above have helped me to reframe my confused thinking around sugar and see it for what it is, a drug like substance that provides no benefit and deserves no space in my life.

 

💜 Abstainer or Moderator 💜

Gretchin Rubin talks about people falling into two camps. Those who can moderate their intake of something and those who need to abstain. You may be an abstainer for one thing and a moderator for other things.

Only you know if something is a problem for you, but if you find a lot of your mental energy being chewed up constantly debating whether you should have something or not, and if so how much , and how frequently, and then constantly having to re-asses…..maybe it’s time to just abstain. Maybe abstinence is easier.

With sugar, I think abstinence will provide me with a great deal of freedom.

 

💜 Recovery 💜

On anything addiction related Russell Brand is a great resource. I’ve read his book Recovery and love his definition of recovery as “recovering the person you were meant to be all along.” Yes!

My 30 day challenge has been freeing so far, and what’s making this stand out from similar forays into sugar-free living is that I’m taking myself and my sugar addiction seriously.

I’m taking my recovery and my extraction from the pull of sugar very seriously. I’m seeing sugar for what it is finally; a vitality-detracting addictive substance.

I’m acknowledging that it has had a power over me and it’s time to put it in its place and take control again.

Before I’d always end up making excuses as to why I should go back and ‘treat’ myself to sugary things again after a bit of a break. But as you can read above, how much of  a treat is something that leads to obesity, diabetes and all manner of health-problems?

I want to start acting like I really love myself and start treating myself accordingly by treating myself to actual treats.

Obviously it’s early days, who knows where I’ll end up with this. But I’m taking it day-by-day and letting myself enjoy life without sugar.

I’d like to look back at the end of the year and say YES – January was the month I elevated my life to next level by dialling this new habit of sugar-free living.

The Moon is my Calendar Journal pictured here is helping me track my monthly wellness focus. For every day that goes by without sugar I give myself a little love-heart, a visual reminder that I’ve done something loving for myself.

There’s no deprivation or suffering going on here, I’m actually stepping into a new level of freedom and self-love.

Big Sugar

You might say sugar is the new smoking. A widespread health epidemic that ‘Big Sugar’ – as I’ve taken to calling the peddlers of processed-edible-food-like-substances packed with sugar- are keen for us not to look too closely at.

Did you know that if you removed all the ‘food’ items in your local supermarket that contain added sugar you would be left with just 20% of what you see there?

Also, experiments by these companies were run to try and reduce the sugar and salt intake as a way to to address the health epidemic. They failed as it turns out most processed food with added sugar doesn’t taste of anything when the sugar and/or salt is removed. Because they aren’t real food!

Bonkers isn’t it. 80% of what we’re presented in a supermarket is highly addictive, engineered-food-like-substances, with little if any nutritional or taste value, salt and sugar aside,  designed to hijack our biochemistry and keep us hooked on something that will insidiously and slowly poison us.

I’ll share something straight from Food: WTF Should I Eat:If it were a brand-new product, the government would treat it like a dangerous substance to be controlled and regulated, not something that should be given to babies and added to 74% of all packaged foods in supermarkets. In fact, it would be approved as a good additive because it is so toxic when consumed in anything but small amounts. When you look at the damage caused by sugar – obesity, diabetes, heart disease, cancer, dementia, stroke, depression – you have to wonder why we continue to eat it as we do, and even worse, why we spoon-feed sugary junk foods to our children.

The food industry is poisoning us for profit. Just like the tobacco industry did. Same shit. Different poison. 

 

A Rose By Any Other Name

 

…..would still smell as sweet, And sugar by another name will still mess you up.

The Eskimos have over 50 ways to say snow.

We have over 50 ways to say sugar.

Gives you an idea how  deeply woven into the fabric of our society this toxic substance is. Read this list of the different names sugar is coated under and soak it up. 

Next time you’re looking at an ingredients label and wishing to avoid sugar don’t be fooled by fancy names for it.  Dehydrated cane juice, agave syrup, coconut sugar….it’s all just sugar dressed up in fancy shoes.

Once it hits your bloodstream it hijacks your chemistry and brain just like SUGAR SUGAR.

Phew, that’s a hell of a lot of information and rantings on sugar. If you’re still looking for more inspiration and information to advise your own re-assessment of sugar, here’s what else I found useful this month:

 

Research Papers

Sugar Addiction: From Evolution to Revolution

Sugar addiction: is it real? A narrative review. 

Impact of sugar on the body, brain, and behavior

Podcasts

Barry Friedman: How to Detox from Sugar, Beat Cravings & Become A World-Class Juggler

https://fatburningman.com/dr-mark-hyman-what-to-do-about-fake-foods-nutrient-deficiencies-pesticides/

Russell Brand – for general addiction information is great!

https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/russell-brand-on-recovery-addiction-life-love-fatherhood/id1290769207?i=1000393025416&mt=2

And this podcast, The Doctor’s Farmacy, is awesome for all things food as medicine.

Essential Oils

Of course I’ve been using my oils to support me with this month’s focus.

Cinnamon is wonderful for balancing blood sugar and banishing sugar cravings. I use a teeny-tiny-not-even-a-drop in my cacao to satisfy any need for sweetness.

Peppermint is wonderful whenever you need a pick-me-up. No longer will I grab some chocolate, my new habit is to grab the peppermint and roll some on my temples.  You can’t get rid of a bad habit right off the bat, but you can replace it with a better one!

Jasmine – sugar hijacks your biochemistry and messes up your body’s ability to regulate its dopamine. It makes you feel like you need the sugar to get a hit or high. It’s an illusion. Just like the smoker that starts smoking and establishes a craving for nicotine which nicotine then addresses i.e. the nicotine doesn’t make you feel better than a normal non-smoker feels all the time, it just brings you up to normal by feeding a craving that you’ve created by starting smoking in the first place.  Mad isn’t it? Sugar is the same.  Jasmine helps us to rebalance our dopamine function.

Rose – a reminder that this isn’t about depriving myself of anything but actually loving and caring for myself on a much deeper level,  but freeing myself of something that brings me no real joy or benefit.

 

Over to YOU

Could you give up sugar? How does the thought of that make you feel?

Is there something else in your life that you know isn’t really serving you but you find yourself constantly pulled back to?

 

 

 

Go Deep, Not Wide

Yes to BOOKS!

Sometimes you read a book that changes you.

I’ve decided to read more of those in 2019.  And not just read, passively consuming yet more information as I have such a propensity to do #lovelearning – but to actually spend more time with each book thinking about how the information can be applied to my life and putting it into damn action.  I’ve actually read my three January books twice – how’s that for deep!

Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World is the first game-changing book of the year.

Deep Work is described as “a professional activity performed in a state of 🌟distraction-free concentration🌟 that pushes your cognitive abilities to their limit. These efforts create new value, improve your worth and are hard to replicate.”

How often do we make time to do this? Honestly, distraction-free concentration? Say what? Most people (myself included) live in a state of perpetual distraction! 

Our brains are constantly bumping along in distraction and reaction, doing shallow work, like sending emails and skimming online snippets of information, to such an extent that we’ve actually lost the ability to concentrate in any depth and even think for ourselves.

If you can master your ability to focus and go deep into something, rather than have your attention constantly scattered, you have a serious edge.

I want to work deeply.  I want to master my focus. I want to use my brain, and stop outsourcing all my thinking to google.

My takeaways and action points from this book:

  • Attention residue means when you switch from one thing to another some of your attention remains on the original thing. If you’re constantly switching from a – to – b – to – c, and back to- a, your attention is all over the shop! Focus on one thing at a time for a predetermined set of time. Stick phone on do not disturb and set a timer.
  • Use my google calendar to schedule blocks of time for getting core tasks done. Don’t decide spontaneously to do non-critical or important stuff during these time blocks.
  • Ask myself regularly, is what I’m about to do now the best use of my time? Don’t get caught up in busy-ness for the sake of busy-ness, or let shallow work distract me into feeling productive. 
  • Set up specific times to use social media and email, stay out of these at other times.  Start to build a schedule that means I take breaks from focus rather than breaks from distraction.
  • Actually assess the technology that is chewing up my attention (Instagram, Facebook, Email) to see whether it is genuinely bringing enough value into my life to justify any costs and drawbacks, like the total fragmentation and annihilation of my attention!
  • BE BORED – don’t fill every space with checking of social media. Give myself time to check out, dream, think….a relaxed mind is a creative mind…that’s where the magic is.  Downtime actually aides productivity.  
  • Bonus points, every time I resist the urge to randomly check my phone for messages, social media etc….I am training my mind to let go of distractions. This makes it easier to go into deep work when periods of time have been carved out for it.
  • Quit social media for a month as an experiment – not ready for this juuuust yet but it definitely needs to be done as the thought makes me a bit edgy. 

MY 2019 MONTHLY WELLNESS COMMITMENT

As part of my focus on going deeper rather than bouncing around the surface, I’ve decided that each month I’ll be focusing on just one primary health upgrade.

The  idea is to really establish something as a new healthy habit each month, so that come December I can point to some tangible lifestyle upgrades.

I’ll be reading around my monthly focus, listening to podcasts, and tracking my experience and findings. I’ll blog each month right here with an update on the topic of the month.

Deep Work led me to investigate my relationship to social media and how in control I actually was. This spurred me to start looking at other areas of my life where I might have less control over my actions than I’d like to think I do.

My health focus in January has been addiction as it plays out in food. I’m experimenting with sugar-free January.  Watch this space for my update and top resources for kicking the sugar-habit 🙂

 

A Very Oily Christmas

If you’d like to buy someone special a Christmas gift that will keep on giving way past Christmas day, then look no further.

If the person you’re buying for appreciates quality, ethical sourcing, and 100% natural products that support their health and amplify their wellbeing from the inside out, then we got you covered.

DoTERRA produces 100% pure certified (i.e. actually tested so you have proof that it is indeed pure) therapeutic grade essential oils, and essential oil-based products. This is THE stuff if you want the goodness and infinite intelligence of mother nature in your life. Trust me, once you’ve felt supported by these oils you won’t go back to life without them. It’s the difference between living in black and white or full-spectrum colour!

Here are my favourite gift ideas for the holiday season.

Beginners Trio/Introductory Kit

The Beginners Trio contains 15ml bottles and the Introductory Kit contains 5ml bottles of three of the most popular and versatile oils: Peppermint, Lavender and Lemon. A lovely and simple place to begin experiencing the life changing impact of working with plant power in this super accessible form.

Pure-fumes

Perfumes are so last season. Consumers are increasingly aware of the toxicity of many common perfumes, with the endocrine-disrupting chemical -mayhem that they bring,  savvy buyers are ready for better solutions, but we all want to smell lovely, so why not try some of nature’s finest pure-fumes.

Any oil that your like the smell of can work well as a perfume, but if you’re buying for a special someone here are my top three picks. Jasmine, Neroli, and Rose, and three powerful, potent plants that add a touch of beauty to any moment.

These three oils are extremely labour intensive to produce and the result is a precious and delicate plant essence.

A friend smelled by Neroli Touch and commented that it was like sticking her nose in  a bunch of flowers. Essentially, this is what the experience is. Imagine giving someone that beautiful sensation of the smell fresh flowers, but in a form that they can carry around in their pocket, that will last them months and months, if not years, and that they can pull out to brighten their day whenever they need it. Pretty awesome right? Unlike toxic perfumes, these natural pure-fumes smell great and have side-benefits. Their aromatic compounds reach our brains in 22 seconds, enter our bloodstream within two minutes, and can reach every cell in our body in around 20 minutes. They can shift our whole inner state in a very short time. A powerful tool to elevate our wellbeing. Now is that a gift or what?

 

The Yoga Collection

Is there a special yogi in your life? Or maybe your the special yogi looking for a Christmas treat. Well the Yoga Collection could be your best gift this Christmas. Anchor, Align, and Arise are the perfect blends to enhance your life and yoga practice. These blends provide aromas to steady, center, and enlighten your spirit through every breath while strengthening and stretching your body. And as a little bonus, here’s a beautiful worksheet to guide you in using these three.

Hope

This is a very special blend, which given the season of giving and compassion for all is definitely one to consider. The full purchase price of each doTERRA Hope Touch bottle is donated to the doTERRA Healing Hands Foundation™ which supports efforts to fight sex-trafficking worldwide. When you purchase this you’ll be giving someone a beautiful gift and making a charitable donation. Sounds good right?

Emotional Aromatherapy Touch Kit

The doTERRA Emotional Aromatherapy Touch line contains six unique essential oil blends combined with Fractionated Coconut Oil in 10 mL Roll-Ons for convenient and gentle topical application. These proprietary blends provide targeted emotional health benefits for the entire family and can be applied every day to specific points on the body to help balance and brighten your changing moods.  With names like Peace, Cheer and Passion, you’ve an oil for every need. These make great Pure-fumes also! The great thing about these collections is you also have the option of breaking them out into several individual gifts.

The Home Essentials Kit is the one I point almost everyone to initially. As the name suggests it’s the essential collection for all your home needs. From cleaning the house in a green and healthy way, to making your own gorgeous beauty and self care lotions and potions, right through to managing all the common ailments like the sniffles, digestive issues, stress, sleep issues. There’s something in this kit for pretty much anything you can think of. It includes a 15ml bottle of Frankincense which, well, search ‘Frankincense’ on pubmed and check out the research, you want this wise old man in your life. It also comes with the beautiful petal diffuser so you can enjoy your oils in all three ways, aromatically, topically and internally (where appropriate).  If your budget allows this is the best value for money kit.

Christmas Specials

DoTERRA have a selection of limited edition oils and sets which you can view here.  These are available while stocks last.

 

This page will be a work in progress, I’ll update as I gather more gifts for my loved ones and let you know of new suggestions.

If you’re ready to get going head over here or check out my getting started guide if you need more guidance.

Got questions? I’m here to help 🙂

 

 

Conscious Language: You DO have time!

Let’s Talk About Time

If you didn’t read Part I of this series check it out here.

You can probably sense where this is going if you read the previous blog.

“I don’t have time” and “I’m too busy” – two phrases to scrap completely.

We all have 24 hours in a day. We all have a mixture of basic needs (sleeping at night), and responsibilities (looking after little people, going to work), and most of us are plugged into social media 23.5 hours a day mindlessly scrolling for FOMO on something important.

OK, I exaggerate, but seriously, how much time do we fritter on things that don’t need doing? And then lament how great we’d be and what lustrous lives we’d live, if we just had the time for it.

Let’s Do the Maths

Let’s assume you work 40 hours a week. You spend 7 hours a week getting to and from work. You sleep 8 hours a night, which is 56 hours a week. That’s 103 hours a week.

We each get  24 hours a day, and 7 days a week. That’s 168 hours a week. Everyone gets the same amount. Time is very fair in that sense.

Assuming the first calculation pretty much sums up your responsibilities, i.e. time already spoken for, that leaves 65 hours a week FREE TIME! 65 hours a WEEK!!  That’s sooooooo much time!

Doing for the Sake of Doing

So if you don’t have time. What are you doing with all those hours? Aside from outright wasting time, do you (like me) find yourself busily in motion doing a lot of stuff that appears to be productive but is actually just doing for the sake of doing to make yourself feel better and avoid doing what you actually need to be doing to move ahead in life? Or you know, just relaxing and truly enjoying those hours doing what you love?

I say this because I’m guilty of it. I’m currently doing a 90 day challenge with my doTERRA gals and it AMAZES me my capacity to divert into doing a little bit of this, and a little bit of that, a social media post here, catching up on emails there, responding to texts right away, basically nice easy distractions that give me a sense of being productive and ‘on top’ of things, so that I don’t actually have to get on and ‘do the work’ because if I procrastinate on calling that person I know needs calling then I can postpone possible failure and stay safe. OK, that went down a bit of a rabbit-hole.

My point is we often make ourselves feel super busy and like we don’t have time, but if we look at what we’re doing, cut out the things that don’t really matter or need doing, we’ll find ourselves with a lot more space to breathe and do the things that matter.

Does This Need Doing?

Zoom out a year from now and look back at what you’re doing today. How much of it actually matters? Drop the stuff that doesn’t matter so you have space for the stuff that matters.

And if you’re already doing that and still find yourself crying out to say “but I’d don’t have time for x, y, z” then flip it around with “I’m choosing to focus on this other GREAT (make sure it is is great, not just random social media scrolling and mindless consumption) thing right now”.

84,000 Lives

According to some traditions we each reincarnate 84,000 times, so our soul has many, MANY, lifetimes to do the work it needs to do. So if you feel hurried and like there isn’t enough time for it all, zoom out to this soul perspective and relax 🙂

Some mantras to relax and open up time and space:

“I’m choosing to focus on other things right now”

“I’m nurturing these other areas of my life right now”

“I can do it all of course, but not all at the same time”

“ I have alllllll the time in the world”

Conscious Language: You CAN afford it

This is Part 1 of a 2 part rant on conscious language, and a simple trick to feel more powerful by simply watching out for two common phrases that will likely tumble from your tongue when you’re not thinking.

‘I don’t have time’‘ also popularly known as I’m too busy’, and ‘I don’t have enough money’, or, ‘I can’t afford it.

Just don’t say these things any more.

Please.

Will you promise me? At least notice when they come rolling out your mouth and contemplate their veracity.

They’re a script we’re stuck in and repeat on automatic loop. They don’t even mean anything. They aren’t even true in the vast majority of cases. And they rob us of our power. As though we were at the whim of some time-stealing, money-hoovering goblin. Which just ain’t true.

Let’s Talk About Money

There are SO many juicy conversations to be had around money.

A lesson I’ve learnt recently is that people (myself included) have money for the things they really want. When we want something badly enough we find away. We cut back on other things, we redirect spending, we go out and earn more, we borrow, we get an advance on Christmas/Birthday presents. We take out a loan. We good ol’fashion save up! To summarise, we find a way.

People always have money for the things they really want. It’s true. Saying ‘I can’t afford it’ is at best a polite way of saying I don’t really want to buy this, or support that.

Take smoking as an example. A smoker might smoke a pack of 20 a week. The average cost is £8 for a 20 pack. £8 x 52 weeks in a year = a £3,328 a year habit.  Did you know that in Great Britain, smoking is more common among those earning less than £10,000 per year in addition to those who are currently looking for work?  (true fact from this government report). 

Now if someone asked you to spend/invest around a third of your annual salary on something (houses aside, we’re well-versed in the benefits of investing in property and onboard with taking out loans for that!) well your body would probably do all sorts of weird things, quiver and shake, you might let out a nervous laugh, or just an outright laugh, before declaring it an absolute no-no.

And yet, people earning less than £10,000 do sustain a £3.000 a year habit.

I wonder, if you offered one of these people who fall into the smoker earning less than £10,000 a year a business opportunity, or a coaching package, or some sort of training to elevate their earning potential and/or improve their lives, or the holiday or adventure of a lifetime for £1000/£2000/£3000 how many would say ‘I can’t afford that’?

Not to pick on smokers, I just find this such a good example of how we can always find money for the things we truly want. 

That doesn’t mean we can all magically buy everything right now. That’s not the boat most of us are floating in. BUT, crucially, it’s about priorities. We have the power to prioritise where we spend our money so that we are purchasing the things we truly want and need.

So next time you find yourself saying you can’t afford something, be honest, and empowered and say:

 ‘I’m choosing to invest my money elsewhere right now’

or…

this isn’t a priority for me at this time’.  

Notice how freaking awesome it feels to be the boss of your spending!

 

I’ll be battering the “I don’t have time” phrase in Part II next week :-p

 

Never Got Anything To Wear?

Maybe the problem isn’t your wardrobe. And maybe the solution isn’t a new outfit.

Maybe the problem is that you’re not really happy in your own skin?

That dissatisfaction with yourself, and your life as it currently is. How often does it spur you to spend money on things you don’t need? Things that provide temporary upticks in the otherwise constant-hum of background discontent?

You know you’re carrying excess weight but rather then addressing the core issue you buy yourself a new outfit to make yourself feel better, from the outside in.

Or maybe you’re caught up in the cultural obsession with self-flagellation, perfectionism and all-round self-bashing with the never-good-enough stick. So you buy yourself a new outfit to temporarily feel good enough, from the outside in.

I was doing yoga teacher training with Rod Stryker once and I remember him joking about this concept. How we convince ourselves that if we just buy that new scarf/bag/dress/coat/haircut we’ll be happier. Nirvana is just one more transaction away.

We buy into it, because it does work. Temporarily.

For a short spell we feel closer to the kickass-badass-goddess deep down we know we are. Our outer appearance feels temporarily more in alignment with our inner vision. But it’s a bandaid. It’s not the actual solution to the problem we’re seeking to solve.

I remember another time in my life. A time when I had indeed found the solution to the inner discontent.

I was having a lot of fun. I was partying. I was making friends. I had lots of options and opportunities at my feet. I felt like the whole world was my oyster.

This was all mindset btw. This was how I was choosing to experience my relationship to life.

I was in love with life.  Someone actually pulled me up on it and asked me to spill the beans. To tell them who I’d met. No-one in particular. Life was my lover.

And guess what? I never once at this time felt like I had nothing to wear. I was happy wearing anything. Everything in my wardrobe had its charm.

I felt great, so everything I wore looked and felt great. To me at least. And that’s all that matters, right?  I remember a particular cardigan that cost £2, primark-second-hand through a charity shop. It was great, I looked fine and dandy in it and enjoyed wearing it. The End. No clothes drama. Ever. I was having far too much fun revelling in how wonderful it was to be me to care all that much about what I was wearing. Honestly, I would have been comfortable and confident rocking a bin-bag!

So what’s the point of all this? Next time you feel like you ‘have nothing to wear‘ consider this:

Self-care is the best outfit.

Self-love is the best make-up.

Do something for yourself that will truly fill you up with love and light, from the inside-out. 

 

 

 

If you’re done with band-aid-solutions to your woes and ready to get stuck into making real lifestyle changes that will have you radiating from the inside out, check out my Happy Healthy Habits course.  Next courses start September 2018 and January 2019. Register your interest now if you’re ready to start feeling your best.

You’re The Author Of Your Own Story

A few years ago I was in a major early-adulthood rut. I hit a fork in the road and had to make a major decision about which direction I wanted my life to take. I made the right choice but the process knocked the hell out of me.

I was energetically-depleted, and, despite being pretty “health-conscious”, didn’t feel all that in control of my health and wellbeing.

My waistline was expanding for a start. Not massively, but enough for me to see that, despite being relatively healthy by our cultural standards, I was still basically on the usual ageing trajectory which = degeneration over time.  Slower for some. Faster for others.

I did not like what I was experiencing. My yoga training had also told me, and shown me countless times, that this was not an inevitability.  Images of 150-year-old Indian yogis tied up like pretzels and prancing around like spring chicks kept cropping up.

You’ve heard the phrase “when the student is ready the teacher appears”. Well, just as I was in my slumpy-rut-a-tut-rut wondering what the hell to do next, I saw an advert on facebook for a 10-week programme that promised to get my life on track by guiding me step-by-step through the 10 core habits of yogis that ALL humans need to thrive.

The timing was divine. It was exactly what I needed. Structure. Support. A step-by-step plan.

I LOVE a good plan. 🙂

The best bit is, after implementing just habit 1 for a few weeks, I was out of my rut and back into the flow of my life.

I was so impressed by this course and how effective it was in getting me back in the driving seat of my life and into an upward spiral that I quickly signed up to become a yoga health coach so I could offer the programme myself.

And here I am doing just that.

So if you are in a rut. Whether you know it or not.

If you are feeling less than your best (and fyi: 99% of us are nowhere nearexperiencing the full potential of how good we can feel and how awesome we can rock this life!)

If your body is experiencing the effects of ageing and of our modern stress-filled life.

If you have aches, pains, niggles, extra pounds, random injuries and chronic sickness/illnesses.

If you haven’t got the energy you once had, but still have so much you want to do with life.

If you keep on repeating the same old patterns that you know no longer serve you, but can’t work out how to get yourself out of this trap.

If your body is sending you various signals and your mental response is “oooh, guess that’s because I’m getting on now”.

If you’d like to do more and feel better, but feel stuck in “I can’t”, “it’s not possible anymore”.

If you’ve given up on yourself, but not quite entirely yet.

If you’re resigned to the fact that degeneration over time is just a fact of life.

I’m here to tell you that this is all OPTIONAL!

It’s a choice.

Your write your own story, any way you want.

Just so you know.

You have so much choice.

Choice and power.

Over how you feel, physically, mentally and emotionally.

If you’re not rolling around reveling in just how much power, choice, and control you have over your life and how you feel. If you’re not consciously deciding how awesome you want to feel each day, but you’d like to, then please, PLEASE, for the love of all the goddesses, don’t struggle solo any more. It just ain’t fun. Or effective.

Take the first step now and register your interest in the next 10-week Happy Healthy Habits course which starts in September. There mightn’t be enough places left for you this time around but at least you’ll have taken a small step today and you’ll be on the wait-list for the next time around.

The next course is heavily discounted for the last time and I only have 5 out of 10 spots left as of today.

So if you want to take a giant leap in your well-being this year, don’t dilly-dally on yourself.

The. Time. Is. Now.

 

You’ve heard my story, but here’s an update from a  dear client who took my last course…

The last course really kicked started things for me – I’ve started yoga classes 

again and regularly run.  I had never ran before, always wanted to but didn’t think I could due to arthritis and ‘can’t do’ attitude.

The people on the course inspired me along with the kaizen steps. I even managed a half marathon earlier this year with another one planned in October! I NEVER thought I would do that!! 

You’ll notice the client used the term “kick-started”. The power of this course doesn’t just lie in the course itself and the 10-weeks we spend together, but the new and better trajectory that you step onto as a result of doing this work, and the positive compound effect this continues to have on your life throughout the rest of your lifetime.

Will your epic testimonial be featured here this time next year?

Here’s a fun exercise if you’d like to be in a position to write something like the above a year from now. This exercise will literally get you writing a new story for yourself. Enjoy!

OTHER UPCOMING EVENTS

 

Two free online talks coming up next month on Lifestyle Medicine.  Pick up some simple tips on how to add more years to your life and more life to your years,  from the comfort of your own home. How easy is that?

More details and registration here.

Get Out Of Your Rut And Into Your Life

A previous client of mine recently sent me an update, I wanted to share her story in case it strikes a chord with you.

“Since May I’ve lost 15 kgs (that’s 2kgs more than my 2 year old weighs!) I was walking around carrying a 2 stone toddler everywhere I went! I now know why I woke up with my joints seized up and achy each morning and why I was chronically tired.

I can’t believe I heaved this weight around with me all day every day – it was crushing my skeleton!

I’ve fallen in love with my body. It’s really looked after me to fulfill my responsibilities, even when I neglected it. My body never failed me or broke down, it just sent me a series of subtle messages that I needed to give it a bit of care and attention. As soon as I listened it rewarded me immediately and didn’t hold a grudge! It continues to serve me well and reward my efforts. I feel incredibly grateful.

Your course  kick-started it for me. I honestly believed how I felt was inevitable because of my advancing age and because I’d had babies.

There was something you said that really struck me. Something about western theories on ageing being illogical. That surely as we age and gain more general knowledge as well as knowledge specific to our bodies we should become increasingly healthy and happy.

It was such a revelation. Getting to know my body  and really learning about what it needs (and doing it!) has been such an amazing experience. It’s made me feel so incredibly empowered and genuinely happy and grateful because I see myself differently and treat myself differently.

I feel really happy :-)”

 

Perhaps you’re where my client was a year ago.  Not feeling your best any more. Weighed down by a less-than-optimum health situation. Stuck in a rut. Not sure how to get yourself out of said rut. Not even sure it’s possible, now you’re “getting on a bit”.

I want you to know that you can absolutely change how you feel and how well you age.

It’s not even that hard. Not with the right structure, support, and an earnest desire to treat yourself with the sort of love and respect that you are absolutely worth.

You have power and choices. You do not need to put up with feeling increasingly worse as you age.

It’s a choice.  

You choose whether you want to follow the standard model of ageing, or a dynamic model. A better trajectory does exist. I’m living proof, as are my clients.

I can show you just how much power and control you have to choose how you feel; physically, mentally, and emotionally.

If you’re ready to get out of your rut and into your life, then get in touch. Don’t struggle alone, needlessly weighed down by unnecessary health issues.

The Happy Healthy Habits course will shift your trajectory and set you on track for a happier, healthier you.

If you’re ready to feel better, take the first small step now and register your interest in this transformational course here.

If you’re a good fit for the course, and I still have slots available, I’ll be in touch to schedule a conversation.

I have 10 spots available on the next course starting in September (some already taken) and I’m offering it at a heavily discounted price one last time so I can gather more testimonials like the one above.

Will it be you writing a testimony like the one above a year from now? 

You only get one body and you only get one life.  

Let’s do this!

 

 

 

 

You might also be interested in the following online free talks I’m offering next month. Register for these here

 

How to Live Longer AND Better.

The average life expectancy in the UK is 81 years, but the average health span is just 71 years. The last decade of life on average is spent battling chronic illness and preventable diseases.

If you’re interested in living well now and into your golden years, in taking responsibility for pro-actively managing your health care, then come and take some notes on the habits of longevity.

Wednesday 15th August, 7.30-8.15pm

Lifestyle Medicine Part 2: Reducing Your Toxic Load

Around 85,000 chemicals have been introduced into our environment in the last 50-100 years. The  Environmental Protection Agency in the U.S. estimates that our indoor environment is two to five times more toxic than our outdoor environment!

In this free talk we’ll discuss some of the most versatile essential oils to have on hand to detox your home.

We’ll cover how easy it is to swap out the unnecessary chemicals and empower yourself to live naturally with just a few basic ingredients; from cleaning your sink to cleaning your teeth, there’s a simple natural solution for all your needs.

Tuesday 21st August, 7.30-8.15pm

 

 

Essential Oils for Sadness and Grief

The lessons from these oils keep on rolling in. I’m constantly surprised by their gentle power to shift my mood and physical experience in the space of a minute, or less!

Breathe (now called Easy Air, but it’ll continue to be Breathe in my mind for a while yet!)  is another oil blend I didn’t care all that much for to begin with.

Don’t judge an oil by its smell

The more I work with these oils the more I discover that smell isn’t everything, and our responses to the smell changes at any rate. It runs a lot deeper than whether you like the smell or not at first encounter. They are complex creatures. You have to spend some time with them. Get to know them. Experience the full-spectrum of their personalities.

Sometimes you need to be around people who will quietly and softly listen to you and hold space gently. Other times you need people who are going to give you the truth-bombs-no-more-bullshit-talk.  And so it is with the oils. Their unique profiles and personalities come into their own at different times in our lives.

So if you don’t like the smell at first, don’t write-them-off. Ever meet anyone you weren’t sure about at first, but then when you got to know them you began to love their quirks and uniqueness? I’m finding this is so with these oils.  Oils I really did NOT like at all are now my best buddies. Yes, I know I sound like a mad woman.

And Breeeeeeeeathe

Breathe/Easy Air is the respiratory blend and is good for, well, all things respiratory.  I have another lingering cold from the nursery bugs and a drop rubbed around my nostrils cleared my airways beautifully. They aren’t miracle cures. If you’re heavily bunged up a drop won’t miraculously make the cold go away, but it certainly helps.

Oils + Emotions

More importantly, or at least equally, on an emotional level, I’ve been experiencing some serious heart woes recently. Sorrow and grief have been around for a while and this is the best oil for sadness and grief of all types.

According to Chinese medicine the heart and lung area is where we store these emotions. I’m sure you’ve felt this in your own body. You don’t feel sadness and grief in your stomach, or knees, you feel it in your heart and chest area. Applying this oil invited me to breathe deeply and easily, making way for these emotions to move through (emotion = in motion, they are supposed to move through us, not get stuck in our body as we fight to resist them and push them away).

I love making little balms with the oils to carry with me. This one was so nice today rubbed onto my chest and neck 🙂

Breathe helps us experience our sadness and grief fully, without fighting, resisting or trying to hold it still to avoid the pain we fear. It supports us in letting this part of our human experience come through and move out, in a healthy way.

I’m astounded by the intelligence of these plants and their power to support me through this complex, interesting, challenging and beautiful journey that is life.

Are the oils whispering to you too??*

*it’s OK, I won’t tell anyone 😉

If you feel these oils are calling your name (they quite likely are) and your curiosity is spiked, then I recommend heading over to the shop and investing in the home essentials kit.  This kit includes the top 10 ‘essential’ essential oils that every home should have. These are pure certified therapeutic grade, which is important if you want to experience their healing properties as well as enjoy their aroma.

When you’ve worked your way through this kit you’ll know what these oils can do for you and what, if any, role they will play in your life going forwards. DoTerra offer so many wonderful oils and oil-based products, but my summary is that it’s the 80/20 rule. You will get 80% of the benefit from just these 10 oils. The kit also includes a beautiful diffuser so you can get those little dudes into action right away.

The offer here in the UK this month is a free bottle of copaiba with every home essentials kit.  Copaiba is an incredible oil, the most anti-inflammatory substance on earth. I’ve been using a drop under my tongue since he came into my life and I find he soothes my nerves wonderfully.

So, the short of it:

 

Go here to buy a home essentials kit, before the end of July if you’d like a free bottle of copaiba

Then go here to schedule a free half hour ‘I’ve got my oils, now what?’ session (subject to availability, so don’t delay!)

Supercharge Your Intentions

It’s all moon-tastic over here. This year I’ve been plugging into the lunar cycle and working more mindfully with her cyclical wisdom.

Today we have a super new moon. If you don’t have a new moon ritual, maybe today is the day to start one?

The monthly new moon is a cosmic reminder to surrender what’s no longer serving us in our life, and an opportunity to plant the seeds for new beginnings. This is a time of beautiful renewal.

Create some space, get quiet, surrender into a long deep exhale, and revel in that space of infinite potentiality. What will you manifest in this next lunar cycle?

If you’d like to dive into a new moon manifestation practice, check out this quick guide.

New Moon Blessings!!

 

Is there a gap between how you feel and how you’d like to feel?

Does the gap seem to be getting wider with age?

Do you have a sinking feeling that you’re getting slower, stiffer and fatter with each passing day but don’t know what to do about it?

The Happy Healthy Habits course is here to turn that ship around. To empower you with the skills you need to take charge of  your health and shift your trajectory onto a path of vibrant health.

Head over here for more details and to register your interest, next course sets off in September, will you join us?